What are some reasons you would have to fix your marriage? It does not matter how long a couple has been married, problems can arise at any time. If life gets in the way, the two of you need to stop and take a step back. Take some time to re-evaluate the things that are important in your lives.
The most important factor in any relationship is the ability of the two people involved to communicate effectively. When communication breaks down you will find the relationship is in trouble. Ineffective communication can lead to misunderstandings. Misunderstandings can lead to hurt feelings and resentments. Hurt feelings and resentments can lead to divorce.
So if you do not want to give all of your money to a couple of lawyers you need to learn how to fix your marriage.
The first thing you need to do is to figure out what went wrong and you need to work together to accomplish this. So, if you can stand to be in the same room with each other, make plans to sit down and talk.
Have a notepad and pen available so you can each write down what your perceptions are about your relationship and when you think things began to sour and why. When your list is made, compare them. In doing this you can start to gather some insight into how your partner's perception of the same situation differs from yours. These differences should help open the lines of communication and get you both talking and the state of your marriage should begin to get clearer.
I know what it's like to have hurt feelings in a relationship. The logical progression of things means that the next step is laying blame on the other. Then, everything begins to snowball and eventually you can't even recognize the relationship because of all the baggage it is buried under.
To increase your chances of success you should consider hiring a counselor or therapist. Usually when a couple gets to this point in their marriage, there is so much resentment and anger that it's hard for them to be in the same room together without it turning into a fight. How are you going to discuss the issues in your marriage and make any progress when the two of you are so mired down in your pain and resentment?
In most cases you aren't. Having a counselor to act as a referee can help the two of you keep moving forward to find the solutions you need. If you keep fighting you wont ever get anywhere. So having a counselor helping may make all the difference.
The longer you allow the problems in your marriage to fester, the longer it will take to address those problems and find a solution. Do yourself a favor and realize that it is possible to fix your marriage but it will take time, patience and love. Don't expect it to happen overnight or with no time and effort. Just let love be your guide.